Plus spoilers for Nightwing One Year Later
I don't think I believe in marriage anymore. I used to, but right now it just seems like a fairy tale at best and a sham at worst. A publicity gimmick, if you will. I'm going to talk about fictional examples now, but tomorrow it'll get a bit more personal.
I love seeing romance and reading about it in comics and whatnot. I just read the 40th Wedding Anniversary of Mr. Fantastic and the Invisible Woman today, and it was fun. There used to be a time when you could read a comic or go to a movie and see a happy married couple. That's not the case anymore.
Relationships are fine because they can be steamy and angst-ridden and what have you, but for some reason, when characters get married, they become "boring". Hence why a will they/won't they build up to the altar is more important because there's hype surrounding it, and then afterwards it fizzles or is retconned or whatever. Here are some recent examples:
Lorelai and Luke (Gilmore Girls) - Their relationship has been building up throughout the whole series, and at the beginning of the season, they decided to get married. But there's problem after problem and who knows what's going to happen?
Lane and Zach (Gilmore Girls) - This one came out of the blue. They broke up and then Zach asked her to marry him (they're supposed to get married in Tuesday's episode). Between watching this and then Smallville (the 100th episode "Reckoning") I realize that I can't watch people younger than me think about getting married or actually going through with it. They just look like idiots to me.
Storm and Black Panther (Marvel Comics) - This marriage is entirely built on publicity, and I honestly can't see it having a lasting effect (the two had a strong friendship built on trust before, but all of a sudden Marvel is pushing their romance). Before you know it, Black Panther's series is going to be cancelled and Storm is going to be a single gal in the X-Books again.
Dick Grayson and Barbara Gordon (DC Comics) - Phantasm, if you're reading this, I hate to burst your bubble. Dick proposed to Babs, and we were all expecting this:
When, in fact, we got this (and note, that's NOT Babs):
And this happened in the issue RIGHT AFTER Dick proposed to Barbara. It's one year later their time, but still, that's pretty harsh. Aparently no one wants to read about married couples because marriage ruins a character.
Maybe I'm just different. When I started reading both Spider-Man AND Superman, they were already married (and Flash got married a couple years after I started reading his title). And I liked the characters anyway. Maybe I'm just used to that. Or I was, anyway.
These days it just seems so foolish. I used to look at their relationships and marriage and say "Someday". But not anymore. Okay, I'll rant more tomorrow about real life, I just had to point out that I don't even have comics to escape into when I want to see people fall in love and get married.